THE ART OF LEAVING
I don’t like goodbyes. I’m not fond of departures, which is funny because we’ve made more than a few new starts in our life. One would think I’d be a pro at departing or saying good-bye. Nope, not at all.
My first big move was to Miami for my husband’s job. I cried the entire four-hour drive to South Florida. After ten years in Miami, we moved back to Central Florida, and it was harder than the first move! A few years ago, I left Virginia to return to Florida full-time, and it broke my heart. It was so hard to leave my friends. I pretty much sobbed the entire week of my departure. I still cry when my adult sons leave after their visits home, which is most likely the reason I’m no longer invited to ride along with them to the airport. Departures just aren’t my thing.
Life is a Series of Leaving
I’ve always believed there is an art to leaving, a particular gift or skill set that I haven’t been able to obtain or grasp. Imagine my surprise (and relief) when my professor recently shared that “life is a series of leaving.” What?
Dr. Forlini shared, “life is a series of leaving, and we make certain decisions when we leave. Decisions on what things we will take with us (those things we keep holding on to) and what things we will leave behind.”
As I reflected on her words, my mind opened to a new way of thinking about leaving. These words awakened my mindset, a fixed mindset where I dreaded goodbyes because of the baggage I packed up and brought with me. Baggage that was meant to be left behind. My new thought process – departures are for those things that no longer have a place in my life – the burdens, the unforgiveness, and the sadness. I’ll say goodbye to the baggage upon my parting, but for my friends, I’ll bid them farewell with a see you again my friend!
Forget All That!
For years I’ve allowed my new beginnings to be surrounded with sadness because I made the decision to pack up the exact things that I should be leaving behind. Does this make sense to you? Maybe not if you already understand the art of leaving, but for those of us who are not gifted with the art of saying goodbye, it makes perfect sense.
“But forget all that— it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it?” Isaiah 43:18-21 (NLT)
With this revelation, I will no longer say goodbye with dread as I roll my luggage to the car or uber, but I will exclaim with exuberance hasta la vista! Goodbye to the old because I am stepping into the new, moving forward with gratitude to those things God has planned for me.
Embrace the Change
This new mindset allows me to embrace the change and the transition of each new beginning. Without it, how can I accept God’s blessings and step into the plans He has for me if I am continually unpacking all the baggage I was to leave behind – the unforgiveness, resentment, bitterness, sadness, whatever baggage I’ve brought with me that will hinder my faith walk. As Isaiah 43:18 states, “forget about all that – it is nothing compared to the plans God has for you!”So, I ask you, what are you holding onto? Click To Tweet
What do you keep packing in your Samsonite or Vera Bradley only to unpack upon your arrival? Is it unforgiveness or brokenness? Whatever it is, give it to God. He will make a way for you.
“See, I am sending an angel before you to protect you on your journey and lead you safely to the place I have prepared for you.” Exodus 23:20 (NLT)
Allow Him to lead you to the place He has prepared for you. Let go and let God.
Hasta la vista!